Through The Looking Glass

[Freckle6]

Hi Hope! Hope you're doing well. I just caught up and found your new thread. To answer your question from the end of your other thread, H and I were all businesslike for a good while. Probably about 2-3 years... Don't pay attention to anyone's time frames though. Everyone and everything is different.

The usual routine weekly was that I saw H when he brought back our S on the weekend,most of the time I never actually spoke to him at all. I'd greet my son in the doorway and hug him and tell him to say goodbye to daddy and that was it. I avoided talking to him about anything unless it was absolutely necessary. He only got past my front door once a year on S's birthday party (oh, and I'd mail him an invitation to that party just like any other guest. LOL).

Now, I can't deny that there was never a bit of vindictiveness in my essentially ignoring his existence, but most of it really had to do with me protecting myself and distancing myself him.

You're doing good, but stop looking at how he's reacting to you. Don't analyze him or even spend a spare minute thinking about him and what he says or doesn't say or does or doesn't do.