Yes, I think it could be related to MLC. She seems to think that she missed out on the last 11 years of her life while raising our kids. All she wants to do for the last year is go out drinking with her friends. She claims that "she never got to do what she wanted to do", when in terms of major life events, I think she got to do everything she wanted to do.
We lived close to her work, but an hour away from my work because "everyone in Illinois is an [censored]".. She never took a promotion because she didn't want to deal with the office politics or have the hassle of people reporting to her. We had kids when she wanted to. She was able to work part-time and arrange her schedule so we didn't have to have any day-care. As a result, I got my advanced degree, CPA certification and took 8 promotions in 20 years to allow her to do these things while we still lived a comfortable life. that required me to put in a lot of hours over the years and I can understand the stress it put on her, but it wasn't easy for me either.
When I asked her what it was that she wanted to do that she didn't get to, I didn't get any answers. I suggested that we make a list so we could be sure she got to do those things and never got any suggestions. After asking her about 5 times, she finally said that "she didn't get to go out drinking two nights in a row if her friends were". When I pointed out that I never turned down any of her requests to do these things and that she never asked me about going out 2 nights in a row her answer was that she didn't feel that she could. Not sure what I could have done about that.
She also recently complained to me that "all she can do is evaluate sex offenders", which leads me to believe that she is unhappy with her career.
Robx says he doesn't believe in MLC, but I don't know.
I also think this is partly hormonal. By her own admission, she has 1/2 of the perimenopause symptoms. Her mother and sister both had it VERY bad, but it has NOTHING to do with our situation.
At the moment, I am watching my financial future, that I worked so hard for 20 years to build, flash before my eyes. This will ruin both of us financially.
She said that she changed her mind about living together because of all the things that have happened over the past few weeks. When I asked what things, she just snorted at me. No answers. I snorted back and said that is the only answer I ever get from you and she replied that she wasn't going to talk about it. This was the same response I got a couple of weeks ago when she claimed that I have been beating her down. When I asked how, she just snorted at me. When I pressed, she complained about mood swings. What did she expect to happen after telling me she is filing for a D? She just wants this to be all pleasant and easy for her.
Regarding the time-frame, it has only been 2 months since she told me she was going to file and 7 months since she first started complaining, but saying she wanted to work on the R. I don't believe that she ever had that intention and was only buying time until the kids got out of school.
Right now, I just want to blow-up and I am starting to break-down once again. I guess all I can do is stay strong and see what tomorrow brings.
