Ha! Yes, I made out okay but I can honestly say the mental anguish I had to experience during 18 months of litigation can never be compensated. I honestly thought about killing myself because it was very bad. I know NY designed the laws to make dissolving a marriage difficult but really, I would not wish it on anybody.
I know everybody thinks I am sort of crazy hardass (I am totally crazy, btw but that is why I say with great passion do not allow yourself to get tangled up in so much litigation like I did. Take a firm stance early. I was scared, sick, confused and overwhelmed and I handled it ALL wrong for a long time. Had I put all that fear away and listened to the people that I should have been listening to early on, well, maybe I could have avoided all that. But I kept taking all the BS because I didn't know how else to deal with it. Then one day something inside of me just *happened* and I knew I had enough.
Like Chris Rock says... I am not going to live with my Mama just because you aren't in love! I worked damn hard for our decade long marriage and wasn't about to take an [censored] deal just to end the hard stuff.
but that is why I say with great passion do not allow yourself to get tangled up in so much litigation like I did. Take a firm stance early. I was scared, sick, confused and overwhelmed and I handled it ALL wrong for a long time. Had I put all that fear away and listened to the people that I should have been listening to early on, well, maybe I could have avoided all that. But I kept taking all the BS because I didn't know how else to deal with it. Then one day something inside of me just *happened* and I knew I had enough. 
