For myself is was finally realizing how selfish I had become espcially when the kids came. I found myself not being number 1 and it hurt my pride which just goes back to me feeling selfish. It took me 3 yrs of MC to understand that and legal trouble. I had tasted the other grass and found out it was bbetter in fact it was worse. Now after 3yrz I have a WAW I now realized we should be been doing the MC thing together. She had stop and I never pulled her back in. She tried just not thinking about it hoping it would go away it did not it festered. She started a new therapist in April, but it didn't do anything that I can tell. Our main problem lack of communication. Dont try and talk to him if he is drunk. You to sit down with him and tell him how you feel and let him open up. Could be he is just scared and trying to be mocho. Sorry if I rambled


me 36
W 33
s-6
s-4
together since 1991
married Dec 2000 9years
first affair before we where married.
Second affair 1/2007
Gone Nov,2007
Back June 2008.
ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010