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I would not contact him for any reason that is not life or death based on what you have told me.

I think if you call him or contact him about this it will be another opportunity for him to make you feel like sh!t.

You don't need that anymore...

He has made himself clear so there is no reason for you to talk to him.

Let him live with his choices.

This part (detaching) is going to be hard.

BUT

You must do this for yourself and your family.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am