Another sad story

[LRT Land]

You mentioned she tensed when your massage went out of her comfort zone. That's good - that means you are still reading her signals. I would tell you to do that with the outings. Try a couple family outings, then move on to doing things together at home, then suggest a "date." If she freezes up - backpedal, backpedal, backpedal.

And remember: accept, validate, compliment - be kind, warm, friendly - do something on your own, even if it is just a walk.

If she liked the "stalker" then maybe she's missing the attention. Nonphysical attention first. Baby steps.