What is the LRT?

[LRT Land]

LWTG - if you can find my thread it may give you some ideas. I'm not familiar with your story, but I essentially stopped focusing on our R, the M, our problems, the fact H had hired a lawyer (had not filed), didn't follow him around the house, stopped asking why he wasn't sleeping in my bed. Instead, I made sure I always dressed well at home, thanked him for any little thing he did around the house or with our daughter, complimented his attire or some behavior, while quietly detaching and accepting that he not come around. I had to dig deep but I told him if he wanted a D I would find a lawyer as I didn't want to cause him any more pain but that my preference would be to work on the M for us and for our DD. I said I didn't know if we could get there but that I didn't want to go back to the way things were either - so we either fix it or move on. Slowly, slowly things have improved to where they are better than they have ever been. I do have a lawyer ready to go (I would suggest talking to some to find one you like - it also helps to know what will happen and makes it less frightening) should he choose to continue down that path.

I can't control what H does but I know that today, I am happy with how I am behaving in this M. I am not filing for D today. I know it will take a lot of hard work to stay at this point - or near it - but I knew I had to do everything I could because I simply wasn't ready to call it quits.