OK, by saying "relationship" but not working on "marriage" he's saying something a guy can get right away :
I want to pursue and end to this marriage, but I don't want to feel bad about that. More important I want you to be happy about my abandoning you and this family. I want to fully preserve my public image as a great father and a great husband, so I want you to be nice to me and not rat me out or trash me to all of your friends.
In short, I want an exit that causes me no inconvenience or embarassment whatsoever. I am chosing to leave, but I don't want any of the unpleasant consequences that may come with that.
He wants to CAKE EAT... I have and you have to, seen this on this forum where the wayward wants to leave, but says "I want us to still be friends"
By "relationship" he means he wants you to be all friendly with him after he is divorced, like you two are best buddies still... You ok with him walking bout but dropping by to do laundry or use you whenever it suits him?
He's trying to soften his exit as much as he can... He doens't want any drama... He wants to abandon his family but there to be no adverse consequences. That, in a nutshell, is what he's saying.
