Hello all. I've been using the LRT to no avail, it has been pushing her away further, she has avoided all contact.
Last week, I reached out to her and indicated my intentions on reconciliation and committing to our marriage. She wanted more. However, we talk, then she shuts down. I get a little overbearing and am learning to back down. We talked Thurs night....I asked her to go to Retrouvaille which we paid for during our first separation in 11/09. Late that night, she text me, "I guess our conversation didn't go as you planned". I replied the next morning, Friday with, "I said what I needed to say, made my intentions clear, what's done is done, today's a new day, it's never to late to look forward".
To my surprise I get a text later in the morning asking if I could talk. I told her in a few hours. When I called her, she dumped me in voicemail then texted that she couldn't gain privacy (she's living with her parents) but wanted to know when the next Retrouvaille weekend was. It started last Friday. Our sons 6th birthday was this weekend and I had a party planned for him (she did hers last weekend). She didn't want to dissapoint him by his B-Day being put off. She's big on birthday's where as I am not. I didn't see the harm in rescheduling for one week, so I think she was using as an excuse.
We have had one more talk on Friday night.
She does not say either way what she wants. She did indicate she wants to find something that will bring back the feelings first before trying to work on the marriage. I'm a believer of leading the heart, not waiting for the feeling. This seems to be the BIG stumbling block.
Last night she texted me to start a conversation, when it ended I sent her a smiley face kiss...on her phone she thought it meant "lips sealed' so she texted back what that was suppose to mean. I replied that it was sent with love or sealed with a kiss. The texting stopped. Perhaps the conversation was over, just seemed abrupt to me.
There is another Retrouvaille coming up and I'd like to inform her of it, but don't want to come across too strong. However, the stories about this program are incredible.
