My friend thinks I should take Wed off, packup a lunch, our swimsuits, towels, and after dropping the girls off at the Y, take her to a local waterpark. We'd have about a two hour drive to talk during, listen to music, then some fun in the water.
She said that three things attracted me to her: I was smart, I was kind, and I gave her lots of attention.
How did you do all of that while you were dating and give her space?
Do you understand what the space allows?
She wants to date because she wants the "feeling" back.
How you going to give it to her?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I don't know - maybe too much, too soon? I started with "family" outings. Our one "date" was a disaster, so I stuck to family outings. I am getting close to bringing up a date night again. I don't want to lose precious ground I've gained.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
You mentioned she tensed when your massage went out of her comfort zone. That's good - that means you are still reading her signals. I would tell you to do that with the outings. Try a couple family outings, then move on to doing things together at home, then suggest a "date." If she freezes up - backpedal, backpedal, backpedal.
And remember: accept, validate, compliment - be kind, warm, friendly - do something on your own, even if it is just a walk.
If she liked the "stalker" then maybe she's missing the attention. Nonphysical attention first. Baby steps.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
Hey pinhead, I guess it's the little things that make us happy and gives us s hope even if it looks bleak. I know last night what happened with W & me was problem nothing, but it was just very nice to just have a nice chat with her and not about the D stuff even if it was only about 5min. Not to say it’s changed anything, but it made me feel better knowing she needed me still!! Well just take things slow; no one knows what can happen..
That's the thing. With my W, we can talk all the time. It's easier now than before. Of course I try to avoid any R talks, (haha) unless she starts them.
We are getting along really well right now, it just feels like her impending separation is a sword hanging above my head.
