Oh, Mish. It must be frustrating to have those feelings. He is back but it is obvious you don't feel any security about him being there...Michelle has some great suggestions for you. I will be pulling for you as always.
the only thing I don't get is why it was partly terrible for him to call you his wife? If my ex came home and was referring to me as his wife to other people, I would take that as a good thing!