Puppy, I hear you about #5. I'll ditch it. I meant that we have to give each other the right to occassionally step back without fear that the other will assume the worst. Something like "I need some time to figure out what all this means, can you give me a few days before we talk again?" There has to be SOME amount of trust.
Maybe I'll hang a carrot in front of her and say:
5. We spend all holidays together as a family
She knows I get the kids this year on Christmas Eve and Christmas day until 2pm.
Very interesting what you said about your sitch and moving back in together too quickly. No fear of that in my case. We've got two established homes, and the decision to live together again will be a HUGE one.
