He's a liar Sunny... He prides himself on his public image.
Just start painting him out to friends and family for abaondonment and beligerence and you will see him get very angry.
I say expose him and press him to leave... Let attachment wear on him...
He has to work on the program or he's out.. period.
Sad part is, I have no one to expose him to except the kids. No family involvement on his part and I don't even know his friends at work. We have no mutual friends at this point.