OK Sunny... The biggest mistake I can see right now is you putting all your emotions on HIS choices...
If you were a man I would say you have handed your balls over to your wife.
And why are you looking for him to say anything positive? He's a wayward and they do that.
I would carry on with the program whether he is involved or not.. You just learn a lot more and are all the better for it.
YOu don't need him to be part of the life you live everyday.
Your H's involvement is an option.
And why leave the decision of moving to him? You put the weekend in his hands, you put moving in his hands, you are talking about putting the homework for the program in his hands again...
If HE AGREES, it happens, if he doen'st agree.. it doens't happen... What the HELL is THAT?
YOu basically are surrendering 100% of your life to his erratic moods and let THAT drive you.
I could have told you at the end of the weekend he would still be bitter.. It is a first step...
HE needs to realize that if he pursues divorce there will be no "relationship" with you anymore. He thinks he can walk out with whomever he has on the other end of the phone and you will still be chummy with him : set him straight.
You divorce and abandon this family and you will not be welcome anymore. Period.
There are many spouses I have seen on this forum that want to cake-eat, and that's essentially what he's targeting for when he says he will work on the relationship but not the marriage.
He wants an amicable abandonment arrangement with you. Just tell him no deal - get out.
