I need some help with this issue on how to see it as something good not end or negative or irrisponsibility.

H is trying to rent a house with his parents, normal family's not a bad thing, but his illegal, don't really work and h will be paying for everything.

how can i see this as a positive move rather then sentencing on going in the direction of divorce

Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline