Another sad story

[john28]

PH - you and I are on the same timeline here. what has my wife asked for?

Space.

I know man - it feels like you're doing the exact opposite of what we need to do. I feel like when I give her space she pulls further away and is just distancing herself. I have to keep reminding myself that she DOES love me, and she can't let that go with a little space i give her.

Luckily I was able to get my W into MC very quickly, and then we did the "day-by-day" approach. Maybe that's what you should suggest? Something like...

"I want to give you this space. I know it's healthy for you and you asked for it. Let's do this day by day."

That's one more day she's in the house, and one more day you're with her. I've cherished each day, but I've screwed up royally along the way.

If you can give her space in the house, there is no need for her to leave it.

I know my W asked for space. I gave her two days of it - I fully engulfed myself and tried the hardest ever. Was super nice and loving, but gave her lots of space. No touching. No ILY. No calls from work. No asking to go to bed. Within two days she was cuddling with me in bed. You may not believe it, but she wants and craves physical touch as much as you do.