Actually, if say on Sunday I were to head downstairs just to see what decorations I can free up I will BET you that within 5 minutes CJ would be right behind me.
See, this IS his baby, he organizes everything just so...
So maybe I'll just do that or suggest we do a bit of decorating together.
Actually, if say on Sunday I were to head downstairs just to see what decorations I can free up I will BET you that within 5 minutes CJ would be right behind me.
See, this IS his baby, he organizes everything just so...
So maybe I'll just do that or suggest we do a bit of decorating together.
Quote: Then I figured it out...Gift Giving (one of my LL's) was something CJ used to be good at, was good with OW )...but has been nothing short of negligent about with me over the years. After thoughts, last minute grabs, or stuff I'd told him I wanted.
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Yes, the gift giving over the years could be read as a barometer of our realtionship. My H was never much one for gifts in the first place, as his family was pretty weird. I believe gift giving and the way holidays and special days like birthdays are celebrated are learned from our own family's tradtions. If you grew up without birthdays being a big deal, then it is hard to start making them a big deal in adult life.
Anyhow, H's way of remembering my birthday of late, was to pick up any old postcard lying around and scribble a quick salutation on it, and go to the shop on the *morning* of my birthday and pick up some books or CDs. The last two times they were Cds of HIS taste, not mine. Last Christmas, he gave my sis a CD for a present, and she had barely opened it when he told her he would make a copy of it for himself! My sis just managed to stop herself asking why he didn't just keep the CD and give her a copy???
Needless to say this year my birthday present was the bombshell (three days before)! Wow! Not a birthday to forget! I suggested we go out for a meal for D's sake, but I remember choking on the food, and barely getting more than a couple of mouthfuls down.
Wonder what I'll do this Christmas? Planning on sending a card with some of my thoughts in it, letting him know the door is still open, prior to our separation agreement coming up for approval in Feb.
Livnlearn
PS My thread is "Newbie piecer needs advice and encouragement"
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Yeah I got bit by the slow post....hence double entry, there Pam. Not one I'd CHOOSE to post twice!
Welcome to Piecing Livin!
Yeah the timing on these things can really suck, can't they? I was barely 3 weeks post op (and a big one) when CJ dropped his first bomb.
Just goes to show you how wrapped up in their own pain and confusion they are.
And so, what does CJ do on his way home today? He not only picked up the groceries for dinner, but bought a nice Poinsettia too!
I thanked him sincerely, watered it up and placed it prominently in the living room. Complements his red wall nicely!
So instead of all walking, I decided to try out our new vacuum cleaner today. YES after 2.5 years of not working properly CJ successfully brought the thing back to Walmart (no reciept, but I dug out my daily minder and monthly financial entries along with the bank statement showing the direct deposit purchase....this was from May 2000! ...See...sometimes obsessive record keeping pays off! )
At first it didn't seem to be doing a good job...gobs of cat hair and other stuff left behind . I REALLY dreaded having to tell CJ that it wasn't all that great when I figured out that the handle part (with attachments) was running at the same time, taking half the juice!
From then on it was Flylady for sure!
I did a bunch of dusting and reorganizing too. And told CJ how great the new vacuum is, gave him a rather sweaty kiss.
I LOVE Poinsettias! Have consider getting one, but if I did I would want one of those nice big expensive ones! Sigh...David got me one the Christmas we were dating and I was able to keep it alive for the longest time. I hated it when I lost it!
That was very sweet of CJ!!! Thoughtful!!!
So shall my GF and I see if the waiter will dance for us tonight?
BTW: You posted the same thing twice on my thread as well.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
...See...sometimes obsessive record keeping pays off! 
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