I have been getting the cold treatment again from the W, despite doing everyting I can to ease the load of caring for twin 2 year old boys.

When she needs me to do something she has no problem telling me what she needs me to do, but when it comes to being pleasant and friendly and caring? I get it in an eyedropper.

She said she wanted to come to my next T session and so I texted her a time and day hours ago and still got no reply.

But here's a scenario that took place that I need to bounce off of whomever is reading.

Last week we were invited to my sister's service where her and her H renewed their wedding vows. They invited the wedding party, which my W and I were apart of. My W wants nothing to do with being around my family and she hasn't had any contact with them in over 5 months. When I had invited her to functions she always declined. So this time I didn't even invite her -- I just told here where I had to go and when I would be home.
Also, the next day I had made an eBay purchase and I know she got the email from PayPal stating I made a $300+ transfer from our checking acct. I think she read that and got really upset (here he goes again spending money wildly!!) and that's when she wanted to come to my next session.

But over the weekend I completed some eBay sales that totaled more than $900, which I told her I was transfering into our account. She said, "How did you make $900?" I explained and she said nothing. She wasn't even happy that I made the extra cash. She was emotionless.

I wonder if all of these little events are connected.

We were talking about taking our kids away for a day to Sesame Place with her sister, husband and their kids. It's expensive. And that's when I told her that I had contributed to the vacation fund by making $930.

Part of me feels like she wants to hate me, and then feels guilty. Now I am not sure she is going to come to my T session. I don't really know her initial motivation and her silence tells me she's not sure she wants to go now.

I want to provide a snapshot of a day in this life of us from this past weekend. It's very much a typical weekend day.

7AM: Kids wake up. Mom and dad each tend to one son. Mom prepares breakfast, dad sits with or plays with kids.
8-8:30: After eating mom cleans up breakfast, gets kids dressed.

9AM: Dad (alone) takes kids for long walk through town. Stop for bagels, see fountains, flags, people, etc. Kids have good time. Mom stays home and showers.

11AM: Dad and kids return home. Maybe run around backyard for 15min. Change diapers and kids nap at 11:30am.

1PM: Kids wake up. Mom makes lunch. After lunch mom cleans up and dad plays with kids.

2PM: Mom wants to go to sister's house and take kids swimming. Mom tells dad that he needs to entertain kids when she packs up and prepares to go. Dad plays with kids.

2:30PM: Leave. Mom doesn't go in the pool, so dad takes son swimming while Mom cares for son #2.

4:30PM: W tells H that he needs to watch kids while she cooks dinner.

5PM: Feed kids dinner. Mom cleans up dinner.

6PM: Go home. Dad gives kids a bath. Mom prepares snack.

7PM: Kids run around house for a bit. Sit down have snack/milk.

7:45-8PM: Kids go to bed.

This is very typical and also imagine my situation: my W wants to split! Where in this schedule do you see W spends quality time with kids?? She is great at being mom, but can't be a mother and enjoy her kids. She is totally overwhelmed and feels I am the source of her depression. I am the scapegoat. If she's upset, it's my fault.