It's that she is using tangents to get what she wants and that she is unwilling to put up with what I do everyday for even a few days
Maybe she just wants a vehicle to drive to feel safe in. She wants you to TCB on the vehicle mx. She wants to feel secure. She will love it if you fix the brakes and get new tires. I understand why you drive the car you do, now try to see it from her POV.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.