Quote: Then I figured it out...Gift Giving (one of my LL's) was something CJ used to be good at, was good with OW )...but has been nothing short of negligent about with me over the years. After thoughts, last minute grabs, or stuff I'd told him I wanted.
Hello Shiny Bear
Yes, the gift giving over the years could be read as a barometer of our realtionship. My H was never much one for gifts in the first place, as his family was pretty weird. I believe gift giving and the way holidays and special days like birthdays are celebrated are learned from our own family's tradtions. If you grew up without birthdays being a big deal, then it is hard to start making them a big deal in adult life.
Anyhow, H's way of remembering my birthday of late, was to pick up any old postcard lying around and scribble a quick salutation on it, and go to the shop on the *morning* of my birthday and pick up some books or CDs. The last two times they were Cds of HIS taste, not mine. Last Christmas, he gave my sis a CD for a present, and she had barely opened it when he told her he would make a copy of it for himself! My sis just managed to stop herself asking why he didn't just keep the CD and give her a copy???
Needless to say this year my birthday present was the bombshell (three days before)! Wow! Not a birthday to forget! I suggested we go out for a meal for D's sake, but I remember choking on the food, and barely getting more than a couple of mouthfuls down.
Wonder what I'll do this Christmas? Planning on sending a card with some of my thoughts in it, letting him know the door is still open, prior to our separation agreement coming up for approval in Feb.
Livnlearn
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"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
