I don't get angry very often. Far more sad than angry. When I do get angry at the W it's because I see how much this will hurt the girls, me, and even the W. She can't see that of course, she really can't.
Last night she asked if it was good for the girls to see us so unhappy; I said that seeing their parents work through their problems in a relationship instead of putting a match to the fuse would be a fantastic thing for them to learn.