cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[newmama]

Good luck, AWESOME AWEST!!! I am feeling your strength through the post! Can't wait to hear how you did...not to celebrate filing for D but to celebrate taking a stand.

IMO I think mishka has a good point about the money...hopefully your L will fill you in...be sure that you divide that up or get another bank account, etc before you tell him that you are filing.

The reason why I think you should tell him is that if you didn't, his reaction could be worse and it could jeopardize your divorce proceedings...honestly! There are studies that have been done that say contentious divorces cost more money, take longer, and cause more stress on the kids (although WHY do we need a study to tell us this?).

The other reason is that if you still want him back, then letting him know gives him a window sort of. JUST MY OPINION!!

and i cry when I am scared, nervous, angry, sad, etc.

ME TOO! Until I learned to DB. And now I know that the only reason I cried was because I wasn't good at labeling my emotions and understanding what I was feeling and why. Could you be similar?