Yeah, I've been messing around with "Main Street" a little too. Best song on the album, IMO. Truthfully, I don't think I can put enough raw emotion into it to do it justice.
Now, back to our regularly scheduled programming...
W has been cold as ice on the phone ever since I sent that text message to her, saying I'm not going to Disney with her and the kids. She returns from her trip tomorrow evening, then I'm leaving with the kids the next day to go home to Michigan for my Grandmother's funeral.
The question is, what to say to her? She was trying to be open and honest with me before she left. I have to give her credit for that at least. I need to do the same.
The question I wrestle with is how much to just lay out my position and that's it, or additionally offer a counterproposal. Laying my boundary is easy:
"W, I've thought about what you said before you left. It won't work for me. I can't continue to be married to you while you date other men. If that's what you choose to do, this isn't going to work, and we need to make arrangements to end our marriage. We almost had our agreement finalized last year, so I think we could have it done relatively quickly. No more anger or resentment. I won't agree to less than 50/50 custody though, so if that's going to be an issue, we might as well not waste our time, and just let the courts decide."
My counterproposal would go something like:
"I am willing to date you and do family things together, including going to Disney, and put off the legal stuff, provided you give up this notion of an open relationship, and make a real committment to reconciliation. I'm fine with putting the past aside for a while."
Either way, I'll finish with:
"Think about it while we're gone, and let me know when we get back (six days). I'm sure neither one of us wants to drag this out longer than we need to."
