Nothing fits

[MichelleLT]

"We don't talk about anything of importance" means that you are choosing not to bring up things that you feel are important.

Why? Because you feel too demanding? Because you are afraid of what he'll say? Or because you don't have time? You don't feel close enough to talk about them?

The only way that will change, that you have any control over, is if you start talking about those things you feel are important.

People stay together because they want to be. He is there because he wants to be. And you are letting him stay because, despite your doubts and insecurities, you want him there.

If you don't, then ask him to leave.

If he wants to leave, that's also fine. You've been there, done that "SEVERAL TIMES!"

If you truly believe the things you are wanting are too soon, or unreasonable, or a product of your insecurities then talk to you C instead of him.

But if it really is something you want to do in order to try and move the R forward, to make it more fulfilling, then just do it!

Quit worrying so much about how he's going to react. If you want to talk to him, pick a quiet time and place, use the communication skills you've been working on, and talk.

OT and others always have great phrasing suggestions, but you can come up with similar things on your own. You have the skills. You know what you need to know, time to practice it. Plan out what you want to say and trust yourself to say it well!