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"And that has gone both ways. My point to D is that she is trading her precious time waiting for someone who is demonstrating he is not interested in reconciling. That's not a "hard line" approach.. It's pointing out a brutal reality."

My question was this....

Please explain exactly what point you are trying to get across herE.

I added the E. Feels like Wheel of Fortune sometimes.. Can I buy a vowel? (Well R is not a vowel.. but I do tend to leave it out sometimes)

What is it that you want her to do different? File? Quit? Act TMR?

I read the following from D...

being adamant on being entitled to a portion of my jewellery. and then he'll turn around and ask me not to lay claim on his baseball collection. it's like .. you can't have it both ways. it's a concept he never understood. and i don't know how to get that through to him. i lead by example and not with words. how do i lead by example on that? this is the part of the discussion that i fear. it nearly killed me the first time and to relive it? how would i change things? that's the question.

...and it seems to me that she is still very much agitating in her mind and spirit about him. She is very successfully not pursuing him outright, but based on what she vents here, it seems to me that she is giving a lot of mental real estate to him. My point (very poorly made - clay feet) is that a bright young woman with clear talents and prospects in life should NOT give so much of her precious time to someone who seems not to care. It only costs her and gains nothing for her but another ride through the loop.

What is the goal with your post?

Awareness.

So.. should she give it one last HU Ra... or just quit now and push to get out of this as quickly as possible?

Either way - my (poor) expression of advice was to drop the rope. Not to win him back, not to win in court, not for any other reason than to liberate herself from the thick and negative loop I read in her posts. If they reconciled TOMORROW, that would still be a liability for her.

So I question the motive here some.

Motive? Forrest - to be helpful. I work 50 + hours a week in my career field, train for marathons and help raise a family. I don't have time in my day to show up with anything other than goodwill - I wouldn't allocate my resources to anything other. Coming here is a way to give back and be supportive to others.

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