Piano, I am very sorry your H is being so clueless and selfish. I do think a schedule is helpful also to document when he DOESN'T show up...you can use that for the courts if need be....

I get the guilt, btw. It doesn't mean it's bad or good...just an emotion.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004