Trade off between "taking whats yours", and "respecting her space" is you fall into this brotherly/friend type of position. Most women who I have been with, when they are with me will allow me to "take whats mine", not "rape" - but to strongly initiate...
Where I'm "respecting her space" too strongly and doing the egg-shell bit, its more of a friend/sister role.
I think she's getting to the point where you should initiate strongly, tell her what you want and what your going to do to her. Allow her to do the same to you.
