For the record, I do prefer to continue to have an intel system in place, for some of the reasons outlined. But my opinion on that is greatly affected by how much the betrayed spouse can handle it, and how much it may continue to just DISTRACT them from actually moving on to Phase II. Even for myself, I had to change the frequency with how often I checked my intel, going to 1x/week and then even less often than that later on, as it can be addicting in and of itself.
I do NOT advocate just SHUTTING IT DOWN, however, as a spouse in full wayward mode is a volatile cocktail indeed. I'd rather see you check it less frequently, or another option is to ask a trusted and discreet friend to monitor the raw intel FOR you, and only inform you of immediate threads and give you summary reports.
