...if you get caught by your W at this point that is exactly what she is going to tell everyone that you are acting like and it will further VALIDATE her reasoning for leaving you. You will push her further away. ....…..your wife is still gone…..and at this point it does not matter how many people you convince or who you convince, it is not going to bring her back to you. ....more Intel at this point does not help. It is that plain…………….let that one soak in.
OK. I completely understand and agree. And whatever lies and stories they are telling abour "us", "me" and "them" will all come out in the wash.
Originally Posted By: missherlove
I would send the letter similar to what Grit sent to his MIL, but after that you are done with her too.
Done. And "done".
Originally Posted By: missherlove
STOP COMMUNICATING WITH THE OM’s wife. She has served her purpose there is no other good reason within the context of saving your marriage to be talking with her. Every time you talk to her it is going to get back to OM and your W and anyone else that is remotely interested……..makes you look crazy……..actually it is crazy…….your not crazy are you???? If your not crazy now you soon will be if you continue to talk to her. ..It makes you look desparate …………also makes you feel desparate and it prevents you from detaching from the sitch.
Understood. It isn't helping me and it can't be helping her either for the same reasons. I really doubt it will get back to OM and/or W but I agree it is pointless. However, if she finds text evidence (she has the only acess to it) from either OM to her or from his mom to OM that the A is developing cracks, it would be good to know, correct?
Originally Posted By: missherlove
Phase I of Super Spy Sleuth is over………..and you did well, in fact you did it perfectly.You graduate with Honors, Puppy send him his certificate please. Time to shut down the operation, give the 007 gadgetry back to Q.
OK. I appreciate the kind words. I feel that I did "something" but certainly NOT with the perfection of Allen's or Puppy's words. I didn't have the detachnemnt or confidence to REALLY shock her. Though sitting with her mom felt pretty calm. And, someone said here that though my W didn't react like she was affected, the words "went in there and will bounce around for a long time" So I'll take your accolades and add them to my "good job" file for confidence and pride in myself for the next stage
