Thanks BeingMe, but it feels more like I am being fired from the job of H rather than her resigning.
As part of her blow-up, when she told me all about what I hadn't done, I brought up the fact that I had been working so much that I didn't have time to do a lot, she told me "I don't care about the money!" She also told me that she wasn't going to try to rake me over the coals on this deal, but that's when she thought she would have primary placement of the kids and a FAT child support payment. I suppose when we get to mediation I can remind her of those statements and hope that they are still true.
I don't understand why, if she is the one who wants to end the relationship, she should continue to benefit as if she were still in the relationship. I could maybe see it if I were the one Ding her, but this seems ridiculous. She got to do everything she wanted to do in terms of major life decisions. Why is the $ the only consideration of the court?
I asked my atty if I would benefit by my STBX coming over to clean the house or have sex, which would be the benefits I would get if I were still in the relationship and she said "You are such a man!" She also told me "There is no justice in that courtroom, so don't expect any." These are questions I would like to ask the judge, but I will keep my mouth shut and let my attorney do all the talking.
If this is going to be the deal, then I don't think either of us will be able to stay in the house and neither will have money for a downpayment on a nice place to live. She is going to take us both to financial ruin from what we are accustomed to. That ought to make her happy. Sorry to sound so bitter, but we have worked so hard to get to where we are today it just blows my mind that it is going to all be thrown away.
Hopefully we can work it out in mediation, but if not, maybe I'll have to take my chances with the judge.
Anybody know how to find a judge's previous ruling history? I'll have to remember to ask my atty that one today.
