After Exposure - Keep It Going

[Quicksilver264]

I've been thinking, and just how do you show acceptance other than what I've already been doing?

1) I don't talk to her
2) I don't pursue
3) I don't talk to her parents
4) I am doing ALOT of things and GAL-ing

However SHE THINKS because I am/have NOT:

1) Wanting to sell the house
2) ACTIVELY working with her on the divorce
3) Communicating with her lawyer
4) Filed a notice of representation for myself with the court
5) Sent back in the papers that I was served

That I am clinging on desperately or in the "anger stage". I don't think she gets I am working a strategy here, and she thinks I am stalling to no end. Her lawyer hired a process server to re-serve me, which ought to be fun.

She keeps saying (and the FC said this too) "Your actions communicate so much more than your words, and what you are doing says so much to me right now about what kind of person you are".

She REFUSES to see or doesn't recognize that I am just not pursuing her, and that what I am doing is for my OWN interests. She can't seem to see past her own divorce papers, and desperately needs me to validate her desire to divorce.

For me, doing all this just means I don't want to work with a woman out of control, and doing very unhealthy and vindictive things. I will do things in MY OWN time, and that are BEST FOR ME.

I know she is gonna corner me sometime today or tomorrow about selling the house.

In the past, I have played it sort of like a "Hollywood producer", very short, carefree sort of attitude. Like I once said:

"Yeah, well. It's hard to say, but that's a big decision, and I don't have time to talk about it now. I'm late and I gotta jet. We'll have to do this another time, and I'll let you know when I can talk. Ok? Awesome...."


And wow that pisses her off. But I think I need a slightly different approach, because she is NOT getting it.