So I know we are not supposed to avoid talking about the R. What seems to be happening in my case on a fairly frequent basis is that when ever I confront her on anything she will usually come back at me and say it's time to discuss the situation and will ask me if i am available later or the following evening. Even though I say yes and usually suggest I will make myself available and we can discuss sooner the discussions never happen.
She just acts like she never made the suggestion, never opens the discussion and life goes on. Should I be opening it up and asking her what she wanted to discuss. It all seems like a bit of a cat and mouse game. My strategy right now is to just play along and when she is ready she can start the talk. There is really no point in having the R talk unless she is going to do most of the talking and that prob wont happen if I start it.
I have a couple of things I want to discuss with her. The main one being.
She says maybe we can still date after we separate. I want to close this down unless it happens immediately. I have no intention of becoming her safety net.
Also we recently went to a friends wedding. i know she had a good time hanging out with me and even remarked how much fun she had. The next morning she was all friendly and even called me by a pet name the next morning now she has returned to that COLD state. It's like sometimes she forgets she is supposed to not like me and then catches herself and clams up again.
Has anyone here seen someone come back from this cold state and actually save the marriage.
