I am wondering now if she wonders why you AREN'T pining for her and is taking offence...
I know she keeps saying you aren't over here etc... But my thinking now is that she WANTS you to be broken hearted and pursuant of her and is calling you psycho because you are being casual about the divorce
I would stay on course, this won't change that... When you are dbing correctly it does throw your spouse off and they can get irritated... MWD doesn't mention it, but 180's and such can bug the heck out of your spouse because they can't figure you out after ten years or whatever...
It's all ok, I am just trying to figure out her motivations here and i am suspecting she WANTS you to be a complete wreck right now and you arne't... and that bothers her so she calls you psycho.
He claiming you aren't over her means she WANTS you to be a mess, that's all... its more of a demand than an accusation... She's just accusing you of being what she WANTS you to be like even though there's no evidence of it.
Sort of like if you want someone to be a liar you call them a liar even if they have always told the truth...
