3. Maybe he took the test in your presence (or knew you would see the outcome) and gave the answers he thought you would want to see. Those answers made him look like touch was his primary language because he tried to give you answers that he thought would please you (or at least, numbers that would minimize the confrontation over his answers.)
Well, I had already taken the "wives" quiz (the book has two quizzes, one for each person.) So my answers were visible.
If he wants to please me, that's nice, but being dishonest doesn't help. If all he wanted was to avoid a confrontation, or avoid talking about it....I don't get that at all.
People here keep telling me he may not be happy about our lack of sex. But if that's true, why doesn't he try harder to change it? I can't help thinking one of these things might be true:
1) Long term relationships really do get de-sexualized, and there's nothing you can do about it.
2) DH has a low sex drive, but wants me for some other reason. I don't have any money and I'm not exactly the domestic type of woman....so what on earth does he want me for, if he doesn't want sex?
3) Maybe he's not really happy w/ me, but thinks he can't do any better? or it would be too much hassle to break up with me and be single again?
I. Just. Don't. Get it. He says he loves me...says we're together forever...but we rarely have sex and have lived the same way, same routines, for years now. Is this how long-term relationships are supposed to be, and I'm just having unreasonable expectations? He is my best friend, and I do love him. I just thought it would be more passionate than this.
He hasn't been very receptive to my efforts to add some excitement to our life together. Maybe he WANTS our life together to be sort of bland?
