I think you are doing wonderful. You are at the exact stage I am (asset list). I went to the movie on Sat and got ambivalent answers too. Don't worry so much about what is said rather than her actions. Whenever my W brings up an idea on how to expedite our D, I just agree with it and say "You have an excellent point there." I put on a happy face and let her know I'd like to help expedite too. This has caused her to say a few things like, I am just playing devil's advocate. Which to me sounds like a backpedal. Backpedaling is the only sign I have seen that she has stopped running further away.
I think you need to keep an optimistic outlook and continue to check out other threads from folks a little further along on the roller coaster.
You can check out my thread in my Sig block.
I also go to this thread to boost my confidence on how it's done:
