I filed for legal sep immediately after discovering evidence of the affair - if he could betray and lie to me so blatantly, and had another "ear" to listen to, I wasn't going to leave him free and open access to our finances. I felt I had to protect myself and my kids (after 8 months of being told it was all my fault, while the affair was ongoing).
The judge asked me while I filed for legal sep instead of divorce. I simply said "Hope."
He counter-sued for divorce. He had made his choice.
