My long, long tale of woe and foolishness

[RoughTime]

So I went ahead and posted a brief message on H's Facebook page- I used the one from 'Overcoming Infidelity'. It read:

"Mr. RoughTime is having an affair with Skank A (I used her real name). We just found out two weeks ago. We love Mr. RT. I want to save our marriage and keep our family together. Please encourage Mr. RT to do the right thing, end the relationship and all contact with Skank A, and recommit to our family.
- Love, RoughTime, Kid A, and Kid B"

I left it up for 5 hours before chickening out and deleting it. However, lots of people obviously saw it.

H called me, irate. Told me he'd run into a friend who mentioned it, demanded that I delete it. He didn't know I already had, and I didn't tell him. He threatened to call my parents and tell them stories about me. My parents have been instructed to simply hang up if he calls, and not to engage with him.

He just called me again, a few hours later, still irate. Ranting about how his bosses and family had seen it, how embarassing it was, how it made him look like an [censored], how it made me look pathetic, how his niece was in tears about it.

"Why are you embarassed? Are you ashamed?" I asked.
-"NO! I'm embarassed because it's not anyone else's business!"

Demanded that I delete his entire Facebook profile, and threatened to call and have the phone/internet disconnected by tomorrow. Wants me and the kids out of the house ASAP so he can sell it, and 'then I'll pay you whatever you want'. Wants to know when we're moving, will see me in court, etc. He just ranted and raved and I didn't say much except for "I will not tolerate yelling", "If you cannot communicate in a civil matter, I cannot continue this conversation", and, when he wouldn't stop ranting, "Please do not call me anymore until you are ready to converse like an adult". FINE! he yelled, and hung up.