21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[Chuck66]

Went to the game and kept thinking positive thoughts on the drive to St Louis. Wife commented on me being in a good mood and have talked more to her in the car than I had all week. I would say something positive and she wouldn't answer. I wouldn't give up. So I said something about the kids that was positive. No answer. Told a funny story that happened 15 years ago when I tried to eat cat food thinking it was trail mix and she stopped me seconds before it was too late. She laughed.

Then I remembered I was supposed to go to church with my friends and the kids and I called them on the way to the game. I was very vague..."Hey it's me, I'm on the way to a Cardinals game and wont be able to make it, see you next Sun." And that's all I said...

WWIII: That one phone call got her all spun up!! "Well you certainly have a whole new life. Getting phone calls all night long. You are just giddy!" [That comment stems from her getting home late and I was building the trampoline and picked up my turned off cell phone and pretended to be laughing when she drove up and just finished my (fake) conversation when she got out of the car. I had my back to her most the time so it looked like I didn't even know she drove up. That and one other call from my cousin was it.]

She continued with, "Must feel nice getting to go where you want, when you want. We are here because you didn't like me doing these things and now you are JUST GOING CRAZY doing them." I thought I was here because she couldn't decide if she wanted to be with me so I decided for her and filed.

I didn't say a word and she said you're not going to respond? I said I don't want to get into an argument. She said we are not arguing. I said well that's good and said something positive about today's baseball game.

After we got home I was surprised she didn't go to work. She ate supper at the table with the rest of us. She did not drink (On day 5 or 6 without a drink). She has made some changes in herself for the better. Not sure what is motivating that but I like them.

If she does the dishes I put them away. I did them the other day and she put them away. We have both made our beds on different occasions and all of this is done with barely any communication between us. Today in the car was outside the norm.

She does test me...asking if she has to pay for her movie ticket when we went out Sat.

I think I will get up earlier and have something planned early tomorrow that needs me to leave right before her and the kids. Being a stay at home dad...after I leave and she leaves I could come right back to the house and she would never know.

I am really trying to GAL, but I am also embellishing just how busy my new schedule is. Since she is gone for 11 hours a day I have more of a sense of urgency to be busy when she is leaving and arriving home. I think she may be a little jealous of my new lifestyle and was wanting this for herself.

I'm still moving ahead with the D and she is still looking at want ads for either a new job or an additional job. All while we are on the roller coaster.

Nite all.