Returned a phone call to my pal J (of the darts couple) which quickly degenerated into her yelling at me and both of us agreeing never to speak again!
Poor thing, she's been systematically driving friends away for years yet has NO insight into her own role in this. She's the type of friend who keeps track of how often you call, how often you go over, how quickly (or slowly) you return messages.
I mean they used to have a sign in sheet and harrangue people when they missed a night (we;re talking about a friendly game of darts in their basement here!).
This past summer all three of J's boys (now men) stopped speaking to her (she does the control/guilt/yelling thing with them too), many friends drifted away. Then her Mom died (good thing they'd repaired a 10 YEAR no-speaking rift!).
Of all the pals, I've been the one to stick up for her (kind of reminds me of my Mom), tolerate, keep in touch...but man I let her have it when she yelled at me.
She called right back saying she didn't want to lose my friendship (sobbing at this point), but her every action is pushing people away.
So I e-mailed her H, just so he'd have a more balanced picture (she shares ALL with him and I worry about him sometimes too).
