Moving On..

[marie2235]

After trying everything, I have finally come to the conclustion that it IS time to give up. I never thought I would say those words. I think about so much good advice on this board - thanks Allen and Puppy, to name a few. The only thing I can do, for myself and my children, is to move on, stop being stuck in limbo and make a new life for us.

Who knows, maybe it will bring my H back, but right now, I really don't care. I could never trust him again and after the way he has treated myself and our kids, I don't know if I would want him back.

What finally did it for me was this: it is bad enough my H is cheating on my with a 20 year old, has a joint bank account with her, recently got a PO Box and so much other stuff, but the final blow I guess I needed was him saying to me, " NOt only do I not love you, I don't care about you. I don't care if I am hurting you or your feeings. I have no feelings left whatesoever."

I cried for days over that one. But, in the end, it made me stronger. I have had it with getting my heart broken by this man. I can not let anyonoe trat me like that. I deserve so much more.

He told me - for about the 10th time, he is moving out as soon as he can "afford" it. But, I can't move on with my life and continue the greiving/healing process until he does. I can't afford to stay where I am without all of his income. I believe staying in our home is best for our kids - for a lot of reasons. So, I don't know what to do next.

Is it a good idea to just go ahead with the Divorce and let him stay here until he can afford to leave? It doesn't sound like a good idea, but I can't think of any others, then to be stuck in this unhappy place we are in now.

Any adive?