NB, good job on taking that first step in removing yourself from the negative environment. I know this is hard and I know you feel like he will blame you but that's not true. Has he even once since all of this started come to you and said 'how can we fix our marriage? our committment to eachother?', what steps did he take to fix his issues? going out and getting drunk with a buddy doesn't count as fixing nor is playing video games and not spending time with DD or helping you with the chores consistently.

As I worte elsewhere recently, there are two types of people in this world the WAS and the LBS. LBS are better off with the LBS type of people and WAS...well they're better off alone.

Anyway, it's pretty normal to feel uneasy about a big decision like this but you made the best decision possible based on your best knowledge and intentions. Your other option was really just to prolong the status quo- not very attractive. You're now getting out of the 'reactive' mode. From now on you will do things that are important to you and DD. This is a turning point in your life.

How long is the lease? one year goes by fast and next year you can get a different place if you find something better...point is you can't let your life go by waiting for that perfect 'something' you have to act and cease the opportunity. Doing 80% is better than doing 0% in my book.

(((hugs)))
PS. If he blames you for one more thing you tell him "Yes I've heard you, that everything is my fault. Well I have been doing some thinking about that and I have decided I don't want to reconcile or be with someone who isn't 100% sure they want me and I don't think it is a good idea for me to be with someone who says something is missing. It isn't going to work for me. I didn't force you to marry me and I will NOT force you to stay with me or love me. I think this is for the best. Anyway, I need to go."

Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again