Yup... when a marriage starts to run into a rough patch there are two routes you can take
destructive and constructive...
Let me ask you this.. if when your marriage first started to turn downward your wife can HERE instead of the routes she was taking do you think she would be where she is now?
I honeslty think she just took teh wrong path and it spiraled out of control. You are lucky you found this place or you could be just as mean as her right now
Your wife went to unhealthy places for her marital problems and look where its gotten her
angry and insecure... and headed for divorce... not healthy at all dude...