Half Way There

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Punkin,

If ow is doing these things behind your H's back then he obviously had no idea of who she really was when they got together. He is certainly getting an education now. Whether he'll learn his lesson will remain to be seen.

You can pretty much figure that she's not in this for love, but for what she can take your H for.

As Grit said, protect yourself in all ways possible.

You've got some pretty powerful information. Take a little time to think about what to do with it and what the results could be from your choices.

(((Hugs)))

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Hey Punkin,

Just checking in. How are you?

[Truegritter]

Pun

I've been thinking about the sitch.

I think definitely take it as far as you can related to your own protection.

If she accessed YOUR account or joint accounts then fire away.

I would get separate "new" accounts from H if you haven't done so and change all passwords etc.

Then

As far as H goes...

It is not your job to save him from this woman.

These are his choices so let him learn his own lessons.

Not out of spite.

Try to let it go with honor and dignity as much as you can.

I am not sure I would get involved beyond protecting yourself.

It will just be another front in the "war"

[punkin]

Mornin' Guys,

Slept well and fell great. Took Gkids out to eat and to movie "Despicable Me" last night. When we got home, at 10:00 P.M. there was a text msg. on my email from H. Said there must be some misunderstanding, and would I reconsider signing the loan papers for him.



I know one of the chief rules of DB'ing is not to attack the OW, but in this case, I let him have it with both barrels. And I don't feel a bit guilty. Any thoughts?

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Mornin Punkin,

You did what you had to do.

The message sure gave him something to think about...

[LanceSijan]

There is a time and place for everything. IMHO this was the right time and place. This is not about your R, or the OW. This is setting a boundary about finances.

You took the right steps, get your popcorn and watch the rest of the movie. The plot just got a little tricky!

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Punkin,

If you find out what it is that they apply to your nails to keep them from breaking please let me know.

Fake nails aren't a good choice for me because of the horses and such. Could use something to strengthen though.

Thanks

[punkin]

Well, the weekend is over and tomorrow the fight begins again. I am waiting to see what the Army IG does before presenting to the local Prosecuting Attorney. I had my Grands over the weekend, and everything went well, but I'm glad everyone is gone now.

I believe my border collie, Jessie, is dying. I tried to pretend she just needed a good grooming, but she eats practically nothing, and you can feel her ribs, etc. She only moves to get out of the sun. This is not what I need right now, but there's never a good time to lose a beloved pet.

Had a freebie Appraisal of the place Friday, and that came in good. Now if I could just sell the place.

SA, I'll let you know as soon as I find out what that nail thing is. One of the ladies I work with is having it done to her nails & toes. The only thing I don't like is you have to go in like once a week.

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Oh Punkin, I'm so sorry your dog is not doing well. It always seems like when it rains it pours.

I'm also sorry that your sitch has taken this twist. I can't imagine that your H and ow had a very good weekend. It serves them right.

I'm glad you had fun with your grandkids. I just found out the one that was supposed to come visit me for 2 weeks is now not going to be able to.

[irishblessings]

Punkin -
I think your response to H was completely appropriate ~ this wasn't about the relationship it was completely about self-protection!
Keep fighting the good fight!