Nononono! BD, our loving friends and family say STUPID things sometimes! I am not saying your aunt is stupid-not at all--but what she said was just something she wanted to say to comfort you!!! They don't know WHAT to say!

And YES the small things DO matter- you are right that you need a huge sign at some point. You can set an internal deadline for when you need it and then give up at that time if you want!

Love goes through different stages. OF COURSE your H loved you deeply at one point! Right now it is in a different stage most likely! But please don't give up right now. (((Babydoll)))

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004