RT if your H is in the military you can put an end to the A very fast... very very fast...
It's not about getting sympathy its about reporting his behaviour and getting him straight again...
Infidelity is like drinking or gambling or crime.. there's a short term excitement, but it will catch up with you eventually... oftentimes that's way too late to repair the marriage though.. which is why we reccomend exposing the affair, particulary for military personell because the Military frowns on infidelity (no clue why the private sector doens't handle infidelity with teh same manner ...)
Once the OW is GONE its a LOT easier to manage a reconcilliation... Until the OW is GONE there is next to no way to repair the marriage... I have seen very few if any visitors on this forum who have combatted an affair by turning a blind eye to it who have come out on top in the end
