S- Welcome. And ((((hugs)))) to you. We're all in this boat together and it does suck. I've been DBing since Feb/March but as you can see from my thread I'm losing hope of reconciliation and don't know if I even want to anymore. We're still living together, which is hard, but also somewhat comforting b/c it's a transition of sorts.
Please tell us more when you're ready- there are some great vets on here with lots of experience.