Thanks, but it wasn't as if I REALLY expected to win (kinda jaded about the whole thing, politics...yuk!).
Had fun at Bingo...although we didn't win. My throat feels like I smoked a pack myself last night, though!
MJ's dress and wrap fit perfectly, she loved them. I can't believe the wrap matches her bathing suit to a T...I'd never even seen the suit!
Tonight it's a Karaoke 13th birthday party for CJ's niece. Should be fun. Afterwards we're meeting up with D and H at a pal's place to play with his toy race car track.
Oh boy, the sound of a dozen 13 year old girls singing, talking, squealing at the top of their lungs in a cavernous building with hardwood floors!! OY! We could take only about an hour of it!
The kids were having a blast though.
Then over to our pal's place, good time there, too.
Today it's finalizing my abnormal psych exam and prepping for my last lectures for this term!!
CJ's still working on his submission for this job...it's looking really good and I imagine they will think so too.
Shiny! We do have Friday off most of us...Thursday is just the day Thanksgiving gets celebrated on...don't know why for sure. Does give lots of folks a nice long weekend though...
I love the suggestions about showing a bit more leg and about dressing a bit more prim and proper...you could do both of these at same time....don a more librarian like outfit..blouse buttoned all the way up with a knee length skirt....no need for shoes...just wear it around the house...
I, too, think you missed an opportunity there...BUT no use crying over spilled milk..brainstorm some ways that you could take advantage of that opp if the sitch is similar... you know what you need to do...
Also, could you start small? Buy all the stuff to give him a great foot massage...and make it very sensual...light candles, wash his feet, rub his feet, put lotion on them, trim his toenails for him...REALLY PAMPER HIM....then see if he'd like a full body massage...and go for it!
Do this in your librarian's outfit....and if you like, if he starts to talk...shush him...as if he were a bad boy in the library talking out of turn LOL....what the heck, it might spice things up....you could also tell him it's library story time and read to him...pick up a racy mag and read the forum letters out of it to him while you are rubbing his back....shoot, he might not even need the little blue pill with all of that inspiration, but if he does need it...have one handy! LOL
I guess we tend to think that in-your-face or straight forward is what men want because so many men seem to want it that way. However, there is that aspect of the psyche where the "what if" and the "No-No ness" (okay, I made that up) of the circumstances - acts as a trigger.
Loved the suggestion Alaskagal! Full visuals on that one!
Part of what made me laugh is that I WAS a library assistant (even have a 2 year diploma) in a past life!!LOL
I DO like the idea of some how mixing it up so that there's not so much focus on "it" (intercourse), so that it's more FUN. I'm game for pretty much anything, and I must say I've never done the prim and proper thing (I have some clothes that would do...I DO teach after all!)
As for the foot massage...BOY COULD I USE ONE!!! I put 9 miles on my pedometer before I got home today (Walmart and Safeway after work will do that for you).
Funny thing about CJ..the man is SOOOOOO ticklish, it's nearly pathological. I mean a KISS to his neck (not a brush or peck) makes him draw away and push up his shoulder.
His feet are also ticklish, I tried to give him a foot massage once and he lasted about 8 seconds.
So...just need to be creative within the given parameters. I WAS planning to make a nice dinner OR take him out tomorrow night as he will have his resume/portfolio done for this job application and he's been working REAL hard on it.
First CJ calls to rebook his appointment with the Psychiatrist who okay'd him for the depression support group.
I can hear him from where I'm sitting and he says "No, I stopped taking them". So when he gets off the phone I ask him when he stopped taking his anti-depressants.
He said after his first appointment with the Psychiatrist he cut back and then off. He hadn't said a WORD about this to me. He'd mentioned the doc advising him to have bloodwork done (liver function), and said he didn't want to be on them forever, but he didn't breathe a word of this plan to go off of them.
I asked him why he didn't tell me and he kind of shuffled around it, he forgot....
I didn't call him on it, but I should have. Perhaps I will.
I believe, based on A LOT of previous evidence, that he didn't tell me because he was afraid I wouldn't approve or would make an issue of it, he was afraid of my reaction, so he hid it.
THIS IS THE SAME OLD PATTERN FOLKS. :
This man has the memory of 10 women, he doesn't "forget" a whole heck of a lot.
Then late last week we get a phone call (machine picks up)..."Hi CJ this is S...my home phone is.....and my work number is....."
I take him the message, ask who it is. He says YOU KNOW S...(she worked in HR at his old job...had given him some leads on jobs at the College). Ok
She calls again tonight from home. I bring the phone to CJ and ask if he's going to return her call (she sounded more urgent this time, as if he hadn't gotten back to her).
He calls her (must have had her home number somewhere in the stack of papers around him, or on his computer??) and from where I'm working in the kitchen I can hear some of his end of the conversation.
Very friendly, but about jobs, gossip, him being a reference for her for a new job opening. Something about a possible job there for him (..."yeah I could do the job, but would I Want to?)
Some laughter...at one point (I'll whack MYSELF for this one!!!) I would bet that she asked him if he'd had any interesting dreams lately...becaue he kind of chuckled and said ..."No, not lately"...I KNOW, I KNOW that could be in reference to anything.
But clearly she knows about the course he's in...he mentioned being busy with it, but not describing it as he would to someone who didn't know what he was up to.
So what's the point of all of this?
I guess after what I felt like a lie of ommission about his meds, this "friendly chat" just got my back up.
And when I asked him what the call was about all he said (at first) was that she asked him for a reference. (They spoke for about 10 minutes).
He asked if I was OK later (i guess I was quiet?) and for some reason I said "yeah, just thinking about what I want to do"...which was partially true. So I did most of the recycling...but then CJ came up and finished it. Like trying to make amends or something?
Now do I bring any of this up? If I had to choose it would be the meds issue...
