jstar - I think you did great. I know how difficult it is to be civil and "the adult" in the R and validate their nonsense, but you did great. It will help YOU to discover what YOU want.
FYI, I make a point each day in noticing something H has done or complimenting his appearance/clothes/affection. He seems to need that validation very much. I like to hear those things too, but not to the same extent, and when I can remember to comment to him it makes a hugh difference.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
