New here but learning slowly. Advice appreciated

[Truegritter]

First, what have you chosen to tell family members?

As little as possible.

This process is hard to understand for you...

Let alone trying to explain it to others.

Most people will look at you and project their own fear on to you.

They mean well

BUT

As I like to say, it is not open for debate.

Your choices are yours and only you get to vote.

Also

If you hold hope for the possibility of your H to come back to the M

He will have a ton of guilt so

Sharing all the details with Fam will only make that harder for both of you.

Also, what have you told older children?

I don't have children but I will quote a wise lady on here with regards to how to handle that.

This is from Grace:

Your job is not to repair his relationship with your children

Your job is not to damage it.

If you keep that in mind you will make the right choices.