Dan - I have been reading your thread for a while, but have never stopped by to comment.
My stbx has been out of the house for 8 months and I still have not dropped the rope completely. I've been at this dbing thing for 5 years (off and on). I just posted on my thread that I have finally decided to give in. It's still not the thing I want to do, but what I need to do.
I actually said out loud "I love you, I miss you, I wish there was a way to be happy together for ever, but you win." There was no one there of course, but I said it to make me HEAR it.
I have to stop swimming upstream, or it's going to kill me.
This may not be our choice Dan, but it's what we have. You can do this Dan.
